“”Friends should entertain the darkest scenarios and show that these would, nevertheless, be survivable.” Instead of placating with false optimism, he said, “I need grim, grim realism, combined with stoic fortitude – colored by a touch of gallows humor.”” – Alain de Botton
I completely empathize! Once I get over the initial shock of “What? Why? How?” and settle down to carving out a new path, that is exactly what I need to hear.