“When you are young, your greatest asset is not your talent, not your ideas, not your experience, but your time. Time grants you the opportunity to take big risks and make big mistakes.

“Because its the disastrous failures of these years…it’s these failures that will set you up for your life successes down the line. They are the best lessons of your life. Get learning.

“As I’ve grown, I’ve discovered that some of the life goals I set for myself were not things I actually wanted, and setting those goals taught me what was not important to me in my life. With some other goals, while I didn’t attain them, the act of working towards them for the past six years has taught me so much that I’m still pleased with the outcome anyway.

“You, me, and everything we do, will one day be forgotten….It means that there’s absolutely no reason to not be the person that you want to be. The pain of un-inhibiting yourself will be fleeting and the reward will last a lifetime.

“We dream so big because we don’t yet realize — we’re too young to realize — that those “one big things” are actually comprised of hundreds and thousands of daily small things that must be silently and unceremoniously maintained over long periods of time with little fanfare. Welcome to life.

“But perhaps the first duty of adulthood — true adulthood, not just taxed adulthood — is the acknowledgment, acceptance, and (perhaps) forgiveness of one’s parent’s flaws. They’re people too. They’re doing their best, even though they don’t always know what the best is.”

As I read this article, I realized that I’m still afraid to fail. I’ve failed in the past – and while I’d like to say I failed spectacularly, that’d be embellishing – but I’ve hardly failed enough. The older I grow, the more aware I am of how much I don’t know, haven’t experienced, and how quickly time flies. I’m also more aware of my faults, and while I don’t lash out anymore, I still sometimes stubbornly refuse to understand and empathize. Sigh. Welcome to life indeed.

Article: http://markmanson.net/surviving-my-20s

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